Alain de Botton: Finding Calm Through Pessimism

RNZ: Sunday Morning | 18 April 2020 | 0h 37m | Listen Later | iTunes
Interview with Alain de Botton about his book Calm. He suggests that while it is natural to worry, the truth is that Homo sapiens are a resilient species that have been through extraordinary cycles of suffering and joy. He argues that one of the fastest roots to calm is through pessimism.

Alain de Botton—The True Hard Work of Love and Relationships

On Being with Krista Tippett | 2 August 2018 | 0h 51m | Listen Later  | iTunes
Alain de Botton’s essay Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person was one of the most-read articles in The New York Times in recent years. As people and as a culture, he says, we would be much saner and happier if we reexamined our very view of love. Love deepens and stumbles, survives and evolves over time, and that process has more to do with ourselves than with what is right or wrong with our partner. The real work of love is not in the falling, but in what comes after.